I'm overthinking and freaking out about a guy, what else is new.
This whole WASP situation is really confounding. I really like him, I love kissing him and waking up next to him, I want to sleep with him really badly and I want to be with him- but I'm still worried about losing our friendship and even more worried that he's interested in a "friends with benefits" type situation. As much as I'd like to hook up with him in a more serious manner, I don't think I'd be able to keep my feelings out of it so I don't want to progress past our PG-13 gropefests unless I'm confident that he's on board.
What always seems to happen in situations like this is that I end up getting really excited
[At this point I had to step away from Blogger because the doorbell rang. It was the WASP, we gave each other backrubs (which we did sometimes anyway), hung out for about an hour, but when my roommates got back he left giving me a sneaky wave and smile rather than a kiss.]
about a guy but they always end up never calling me back again if we weren't friends before we hooked up or being awkward until we sink back into being just friends.
My life is such a broken record. I try to be positive about things but somehow they never quite work out. Maybe I should have stuck with #3, at least I'd be getting laid.
I just want this one thing to turn out in my favor. I just want this one guy to want to be with me. I want to take this friendship and take it further. Is that too much to ask?
So now I'm all in a tizzy. My roommates and I are about to do each others' nails and watch Session 9, hopefully I'll get buzzed on nail polish fumes and chill out about this.
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11 comments:
1) I know how you feel. The friendzone and I are bffs.
2) Talk to him! There's nothing more frustrating than a girl who's not sure how she feels about the situation but won't say anything about it.
I for one have a friend that I am attracted to but she is not to me, still I would love to at least have a chance to let the physical part screw up our friendship. I don't think it would though.
I agree with David, you have to speak with him and see how he feels about the situation. But do so in a casual way so it seems like you're not constantly thinking about him.
it may nearly be time for "the talk."
ah... the dreaded talk. my version of the WASP (except for the fact that he's superjew) called me this morning right after we cancelled our lunch plans (both had meetings) to say that he wanted to use the "l-word" with me but wasn't sure it was appropriate. way to stop a girl in her tracks. if you go the way of the talk... ease him into it. i froze like a deer stuck in an flash ice storm... not good for me, and not good for him. i actually felt so badly afterward because i had no idea what to say...
on a more general note, thank you so much for all your lovely comments on my blog. you're great!
Nothing is hotter than a woman with confidence. If a guy says otherwise, he's either a wuss or a liar (or both). Sit down and tell him how you feel. He'll thank you for it, and it will go a long ways as to saving/strengthening your friendship.
Talk to him. He needs to know where you stand. If he feels the same way, awesome! If he doesn't, you don't want to waste your time. Trust me, I've been there!
ohhh...pickle!
i think i'll vote "talk to him" too!
it will totally suck later if you feel that you could have given it a chance and didn't. good luck sorting it all out
xoxo
I think your attitude is sound and that he's being the ding-dong. But whaddaya gonna do except take a step inside the zone of silence and speak your mind? If you lose him over this, celebrate that you didn't make a major mistake.
I wonder what has happened since you posted this. But I'm going to let you in on a secret: guys aren't as complicated as people think. I would say just talk to him. Tell him what's on your mind. See how he reacts. It can either go one of two ways:
1) He is curious and would be open to see where you guys go. This is good.
2) He is not on the same page and you guys decide to slow down. This is also good. One, because you didn't end up wasting your time and two because that whole "other fish in the sea" definitely applies in your situation.
Then again, I am going to be celebrating VDay by probably catching up on Heroes and Lost, so what do I know haha
another david: rebuttal- there's also nothing more frustrating than when you're trying to be open but the GUY who won't say anything!
bamatrav: "I would love to at least have a chance to let the physical part screw up our friendship" haha! you're a risk-taker i see :)
rob: i have a hard time keeping my feelings off my face, so he might be able to tell regardless of what i actually say
thebigshow: oohhh but i hate the talk
egosyntonic: the last thing i want to do is scare him!
nic lake: i have plenty of confidence, except when it comes to telling people how i feel about them
meg: i don't want to waste my time, but really i don't consider any time i spend with him wasted.
tiffany: i'm worried that 'the talk' at this stage of the game will stop him in his tracks. also i tried to comment on your page but it's set to private!
ken lobb: we're both ding-dongs
mr o: i just updated, ask and ye shall receive. i still havent talked but i'd guess he's more 1 than 2.
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