Friday, January 15, 2010

Potential Men for 20-Ten

I was joking with B on msn the other day, raving about boys, when I made the comment "I have about 5 or 6 guys that I like right now." I got to thinking about it, and I really do have quite a few "likes" and potential crushes, some new and some who I've talked [read: obsessed, bitched, lusted] about before. Rather than leave it up to my subconscious, I'm putting them in order of how long I've known them:

1. The W.A.S.P.: B seems to think that he and I would be a good couple, or at very least a good-looking couple. He is a great kisser and we get along really well. The physical chemistry comes and goes, but I think he's been trying to reignite the fling we had Freshman year- we got to know each other after making out at a party, then hanging out and not progressing further physically past making out for about 2 months before I decided to ask him to be just friends. He got back to campus today; he is looking Good with a fresh haircut and new Christmas clothes.

2. F: F is another friend I made by being a little party-happy my Freshman year. Then-Sophomore F saw me from across a party and had a mutual acquaintance ask me to kiss him. We've shared cuddles over the years and I drunk-cried to him more than a few times about various guys, but I caught crazy feelings for him after we slept together in October. We've been Facebook-chatting and texting pretty often since then. He's supposed to be around this weekend; I'm getting really anxious about his visit. The monkey-wrench here is that he lives in Florida and I'm up in the Northeast.

3. The guy I've known for a while but who I got to know pretty well by being a TA with him for Intro Soc last semester: Kind of a long name, but I haven't mentioned him other than in passing before. He gave me a ride back to campus from Jersey and we hung out for a good 24-hours after getting back to school. Much of that was spent with me hungover in his bed after a welcome-back drinkfest/crash with JB. Over the course of the day, between me falling asleep we watched episodes of South Park online and spooned a little. He was getting a little rubby, and despite being attracted to him I held off because I was thinking about how much I was looking forward to potentially hooking up with F this weekend and didn't want to ruin that.

4. The W.A.S.P.'s roommate: Absolutely gorgeous [he looks like this with broader shoulders, me-YOW]. Absolutely hilarious. Absolutely into tiny dumb blonde chicks. A girl can dream...

5. The Blond: We all remember how stoked I was to finally hook up with this guy after a sexually-frustrating but emotionally-fulfilling summer with him. He's all but faded into the distance, but I would be more than interested in him if he stepped up his game. He's just that hot.

6. A.A.: I haven't called him that when writing about him before, but that's how I refer to him in my head. This is a guy I met this year while visiting JB at work. He's slept over a couple times and he seems really sweet. I would like to get to know him better, but we all know that you can't start a relationship with a foundation of 3 one-night stands.

They're all physically attractive to me but in hugely different ways; I'd post pictures of these dudes but I'm not that much of a creep!! Even when I stop focusing on sex for two seconds, they all appeal to me in differen ways intellectually and they all have a little je ne sais quoi.
As much as I've succeeded at being single, I'd like to see what a relationship is like, and I think all of these guys have the potential to work well with me. On the other hand, I can't help but try and avoid getting too attached to any one of them because there's always someone else in the back of my mind. I'm almost ready to remove a couple based on how little I had to say about them, but I do want to get to know them better more before writing them off. Any of them could take a step, be aggressive with me, and I'd be theirs.
Can you see why I'm confused?

Now for the tale of a guy who I know I'm not going to end up with: The guy from my dating site who I decided to meet today. He came by at about 4:30 and we went out for a coffee at my favorite local joe joint. He wasn't as cute as his pictures, but the conversation was going well so we decided to grab dinner together at the Vietnamese place near campus that I like. Again, things went smoothly. After dinner I thought he would go home, but he ended up way way overstaying his welcome.
He stayed at my apartment through all of my roommates coming back home, the WASP and Buddy coming by and sharing their dinners with me [never say "No" to free food], Buddy announcing a much-anticipated purchase and packing two bowls, JB SH and I watching dance videos on youtube, and TWO DISCS of a season of Friends. When he finally left it was after 2am and I was all but sitting on top of JB in order to communicate that I was not interested in his presence.
The damnedest thing is that, had he left at 10pm [that was before we all smoked up], I would have been interested in seeing him again. As it is, he made me and my friends awkward for over four hours without picking up on it, thus leaving a bad taste in our mouths. I didn't even stand up to show him the door when he finally left, and had only coolly polite responses to his "Sorry, I didn't realize it was so late, I hope I didn't overstay my welcome." Hint: If you have to ask, you did.

I do realize that I'd have better luck keeping guys around if I wasn't such a bitch, but if that was the case I wouldn't have nearly as many good stories to tell ;)

*Edit*
Woah, I just woke up from a crazy sex dream about one of my male longtime readers. It was pretty...intense. I'm all sweaty.

9 comments:

Mr O said...

"I do realize that I'd have better luck keeping guys around if I wasn't such a bitch, but if that was the case I wouldn't have nearly as many good stories to tell ;)"

--makes perfect sense

If I had a vote, I would go with F. Seems the most likely to work out based on this post alone.

JerseySjov said...

mr o: thanks for understanding me. i realize now that i omitted a vital piece of info about F, but thanks for your input!

Nikki Jo said...

but if that was the case I wouldn't have nearly as many good stories to tell

OMG I am the exact same way! I always think why I have such bad luck with guys but I think its what makes life interesting lol.

Nikki Jo said...

Also -

I'd go with the WASP or F. Your F story scared me though lol because I wanna learn how to have unattached sex without catching the crazy feelings but IDK if its possible.

thisdayandage said...

ok. I love the wasp, he is awesome and very nice.

F is alright. he's short. also kind of weird but he is a good kisser, so I understand.

the wasp's roommate is obsessed with my small blonde ex-roommate and he's also really strange and I think he's kind of a douche, but just my opinion.

love the story about the guy you went out with from the internets, and even more I love you saying that you'd keep guys around more if you weren't such a bitch. I don't think you're a bitch, I think you're brutally honest and sarcastic and awesome, and you need to find a guy that appreciates it :)

DnWormer said...

I'm all for the guy you TA'd with. Not sure why but he seems like a winner. Any guy who doesn't know how to pick up on cues to leave is too dense to keep around, nothing bitchy on your part.

Anonymous said...

Why choose just one?? I say have fun until they start to become annoying and then they'll weed themselves out.

Dr. Kenneth Noisewater said...

It's good to know you have so many prospects this semester. I predict a laid year for Jov.

Also, you're welcome for that dream.

Hahhaa. Now THAT was creepy of me. Sorry.

JerseySjov said...

nikki jo: i've found that, as terrible as it sounds, it's easier to avoid catching feelings if you don't actually care about the person to begin with. "think like a man"

ta: the wasp is awesome. idk bout F. the wasps roommate is strange bc it seems like he acts like a dick only to girls that he wants to do. ps dinner tonight was lovely :)

mnwhr: i get really good vibes from him, but my girl JB doesn't think too highly of him outside of the friend zone

lilly p: it's not like i'm on a vh1 dating show; i don't have the patience to let them weed themselves out over time!

dr ken: i usually get very excited about lots of guys at once then quickly find myself with one bottom bootycall and several unrequited crushes...we'll see. also, very cocky to assume it was you ;)